Friends: We’re Better Together

FRIENDS: WE’RE BETTER TOGETHER

Part 6 – How To Repair A Damaged Friendship
Matthew 5:21-27; Matthew 18:15-16
October 17, 2021

 

1. THREE MYTHS ABOUT A GOOD FRIENDSHIP:

Myth #1 – A Good Friendship Ignores Problems.  (Matthew 5:24)

Myth #2 – A Good Friendship Means Always Giving In.

Myth #3 – A Good Friendship Never Experiences Anger.

A. Ephesians 4:26  In your anger do not sin : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,…

B. Appropriate anger limits its duration and its intensity.

2. HOW TO BRING PEACE TO A DAMAGED RELATIONSHIP:

P – PUT UP A MIRROR.

E – EMPATHIZE WITH THEIR FEELINGS

A. I Peter 3:8  Be full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds. 

B. Sympathy is saying, “I’m sorry you hurt.”  Empathy says, “I hurt with you.”

A – Accept Personal Responsibility

A. Matthew 5:23-24  So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, 24  leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. (NLT2) 

B. Matthew 18:15-16  If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. 16  But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. (NLT2)

C. Take responsibility by acknowledging your role and apologizing.

C – COLLABORATE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

A. Romans 12:8  Do everything possible, on your part, to live at peace with all men.

B. James 3:17  Wisdom is peace loving and courteous.  It allows discussion.  It is willing to yield to others.

E – EMPHASIZE RECONCILIATION NOT RESOLUTION

A. “Reconciliation” means to reestablish the relationship.

“Resolution” means to resolve every issue.

B. We can agree to disagree in an agreeable fashion.

C. If we are going to accomplish reconciliation, whether the person asks for it or not, we must be willing to forgive.

D. Ephesians 4:32   Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.