The Love Challenge

 

THE LOVE CHALLENGE

Part 7 – Love is Not Easily Angered
I Corinthians 13:5

February 20, 2022
Dr. Mark S. Hartman, Lead Pastor

INTRODUCTION

  • 1 Corinthians 12:31  Now I want to show you a better way of living. (Paraphrase)
  • 1 Corinthians 14:1  Let love be your greatest goal.
  • 1 Corinthians 13:4-5  Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered

HOW DO WE CHANGE AN HABITUAL REACTION OF ANGER INTO AN HABITUAL REACTION OF PEACE AND CONTROL?

1. By deciding to control our anger.

1. Proverbs 29:22  A hot-tempered person starts fights and gets into all kinds of sin. (NLT)

2. Proverbs 15:18  A hot-tempered person stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. (NIV)

3. Proverbs 14:17  Those who are short-tempered do foolish things… (NLT)

2. By cooling down before we address an issue.

1. Proverbs 29:11  A fool gives full vent to anger, but the wise quietly holds it back. (NRSV)

2. “Before you begin to give someone a piece of your mind, consider carefully whether you can spare any.”  (Anonymous)

3. Proverbs 29:11  …a wise man delays and lets his anger cool down. (paraphrase)

4. Proverbs 19:11  A wise man restrains his anger and overlooks insults. This is to his credit. (TLB)

5. In order to get to the underlying reason, we need to ask ourselves three questions about our anger:

a. Why am I angry?

b. What do I really want?

c. How can I get what I need by some other means than anger?

3. By hearing the other person out with a listening ear.

1. James 1:19-20  My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen,  slow to speak and  slow to become angry,  20 for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

2. The first thing we should do is ask a question and listen to the answer.

3. Philippians 2:4  None of you should think only of his own interests but consider other people’s interests also.

4. The word translated consider is the Greek word, “scopos”.  Scopos literally means “to focus on” – to pay attention to.

4. By attacking the issue instead of the person.

1. Ephesians 4:15  By speaking the truth in the spirit of love we grow up in every way in Christ.

2. Ephesians 4:29  Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed. (GNT)

3. Romans 12:18  Do everything possible, on your part, to live at peace with all men.

4. Psalm 37:37  The man of peace has a wonderful future ahead of  him… a happy ending.

5. By building our closest relationships with others who know how to control their temper.

Proverbs 22:24-25  Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man.  Do not associate with one easily angered,  25 or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared.

6. By developing spiritual disciplines in our lives.