Parental Guidance Message Series
PARENTAL GUIDANCE : RAISING AMAZING KIDS
Part 1 – The Goal of Parenting
Deuteronomy 6:1-9

January 15, 2023
Dr. Mark S. Hartman, Lead Pastor

1. PRINCIPLE # 1 – PARENTS TEACH BEST WHAT PARENTS LIVE.

A. If you want your children to follow the Lord, you have to follow Him yourself.

B. Deuteronomy 6:1-2 These are the commands, decrees and laws the LORD your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, 2  so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the LORD your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. (NIV)

• Character is not just taught to our children. It is caught by our children.

C. If you want your children to love God, you have to love Him yourself. (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)

D. Deuteronomy 6:4-5 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. (NIV)

1. Parents are to teach their kids who God is.
2. Parents are to teach their children how to have a relationship with God.

2. PRINCIPLE #2 – INTENTIONALLY CONNECT LIFE TO GOD IN THE HEARTS OF YOUR CHILDREN. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)

A. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

B. Turn your home into a learning center about God.

1. Ephesians 6:4 Parents, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

2. Our job as parents is to move our kids through three stages:

Stage 1 is parent control – they do what you tell them.
Stage 2 is self control – they do what is right on their own.
Stage 3 is God control – they ask God what He wants them to do.

3. PRINCIPLE #3 – DEVELOP THREE POWERFUL TRAITS WITHIN YOUR CHILDREN.

A. “Parents who have a clear idea of what their values are and who communicate those to their children almost always end up with children that have higher self-confidence and higher moral values.” (Dr. Stanley Coopersmith, The Antecedents of Self-Esteem)

B. Teach your children convictions.

1. Convictions are the beliefs that shape my behavior.
2. The people who have made the greatest impact in this world for good or bad were those with the deepest convictions.

C. Teach your children character.

1. Character is the will to do what is right as God defines it, regardless of the cost.
2. Character demands a commitment to do what is right no matter what it might cost you.
3. Character depends upon believing in an absolute standard of right and wrong.

D. Teach your children courage.

E. Teach your children how to stand alone for right; how to say no to peer pressure.