NEW TESTAMENT POSTCARDS

Part 3 – How Not to Fight in The Church
3 John

March 17, 2019
Dr. Mark S. Hartman, Lead Pastor – SCBC

 

1. THE GOOD GUYS AND NOT SO GOOD GUY.  (3rd John)

A. One of the good guys in that church was named Gaius.  (3 John 1:1-8)

3 John 1:1-8   The elder, To my dear friend Gaius, whom I love in the truth.  2  Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.  3  It gave me great joy to have some brothers come and tell about your faithfulness to the truth and how you continue to walk in the truth.  4  I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. 5  Dear friend, you are faithful in what you are doing for the brothers, even though they are strangers to you.  6  They have told the church about your love. You will do well to send them on their way in a manner worthy of God.  7  It was for the sake of the Name that they went out, receiving no help from the pagans.  8  We ought therefore to show hospitality to such men so that we may work together for the truth. (NIV)

B. One of the not so good guys in that church was Diotrephes. (3 John 9-10) 

3 John 1:9-10  I wrote to the church, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first, will have nothing to do with us.   10  So if I come, I will call attention to what he is doing, gossiping maliciously about us. Not satisfied with that, he refuses to welcome the brothers. He also stops those who want to do so and puts them out of the church.

C. The other good guy in that church was Demetrius.  (3 John 1:12)

3 John 1:12  Demetrius is well spoken of by everyone–and even by the truth itself. We also speak well of him, and you know that our testimony is true.

D. 95 year old John is coming to the church to get things right.  (3rd John 1:13-14)

3 John 11; 13-14  Dear friend, do not imitate what is evil but what is good. Anyone who does what is good is from God. Anyone who does what is evil has not seen God.   13  I have much to write you, but I do not want to do so with pen and ink.  14  I hope to see you soon, and we will talk face to face. Peace to you. The friends here send their greetings. Greet the friends there by name.

 

2. WHEN CHRISTIANS ACT LIKE REAL CHRISTIANS, OUR LIVES PRODUCE PEACE NOT FIGHTING.  (Ephesians 4:3)

A. Ephesians  4:3  (our job is)…to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

B. Every Christ follower has the job of preserving the unity by acting and reacting like Christ.

C. John 17:20-21, 23  Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us:  that the world may believe that thou hast sent me.  I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.

 

3.  HOW DO WE BRING P-E-A-C-E TO A DAMAGED RELATIONSHIP?

P – PUT UP A MIRROR

E – EMPATHIZE WITH THEIR FEELINGS

1 Peter 3:8 Be full of sympathy toward each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds.

Sympathy is saying, “I’m sorry you hurt.”

Empathy says, “I hurt with you.”

A – Accept Personal Responsibility

Matthew 5:23-24  Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you,  24  leave your gift there in front of the altar. YOU first go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.

C- COMPROMISE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE

Romans 12:8  Do everything possible, on your part, to live at peace with all men.

James 3:17  Wisdom is peace loving and courteous.  It allows discussion.  It is willing to yield to others.

E – EMPHASIZE RECONCILIATION NOT RESOLUTION

1. “Reconciliation” means to reestablish the relationship.

“Resolution” means to resolve every issue.

2. We can agree to disagree in an agreeable fashion.

3. If we are going to accomplish reconciliation, whether the person asks for it or not, we must be willing to forgive.

4. Ephesians 4:32   Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

 

The Action Steps I Will Take This Week Are…

I will speak to a minister at the Next Step Center about how I can know Jesus as my Savior.

God you can count on me to help strengthen the unity we enjoy at Sugar Creek.

I will use the P-E-A-C-E principles this week to seek to restore a damaged relationship.