INTRODUCTION James 1:19-20 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. (NLT)
1. NOT ALL ANGER IS WRONG.
A. God gets angry because of how wrongly some people treat other people. God gets angry because of sinful decisions people make that end up damaging themselves and others.
B. Jesus got angry with the money changers in the temple and at the Pharisees because they were stealing from others.
C. The problem with even good anger is that it still can become wrong when it is expressed in a wrong way or allowed to linger too long.
2. WHAT IS SO HARMFUL ABOUT AN ANGER OUT OF CONTROL?
A. There are health consequences to anger out of control.
“The more you give yourself over to anger out of control the more you will see a deterioration in your health.” (Dr. John Schindler)
B. There are spiritual consequences to anger out of control.
1. The Bible says that anger out of control affects our ability to have fellowship with God.
Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.
2. Our continued anger out of control can cause God’s Spirit to be grieved and quenched.
C. James 1:20 …for the anger (thumos) of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
D. Proverbs 25:28 Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit.
3. WHAT DOES GOD SAY ABOUT IMPROVING OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS WHEN HARD MOMENTS COME? (James 1:19)
A. James 1:19 Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
B. First, be quick to hear.
1. Be quick to hear God’s Word on dealing with disappointing circumstances.
Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
2. Be quick to hear all the facts before making a judgment call.
Proverbs 18:13 Don’t give an answer before you have heard both sides. If you do it will be a folly and shame to you. (Paraphrase)
3. Be quick to hear what someone is ACTUALLY saying.
C. Be slow to speak.
1. Keep a close check on your tongue.
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
2. Stop gossiping.
Proverbs 16:28 A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. (NLT2)
3. Biblically confront.
Matthew 18:15 If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.
D. Be slow to anger.
1. Learn how to ignore petty disagreements.
Proverbs 19:11 Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. (NLT)
2. Learn how to develop safeguards.
Ephesians. 4:26-27 Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and do not give the devil an opportunity.
E. James 1:19 Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.